Flowering

You need a goal to focus. Else you are scattered over many things.

This sounds trivial. But we are driven to have goals by our parents, teachers, mentor, employer, family since the time you begin to crawl. You never had the time to pause and reflect

‘wait a minute, what am I doing here?’

You were never in a position to identify what you wanted to do. The moment you marry someone, there is a litany of I won’t say woes, but let us call them by their generic term ‘goals’ imposed upon you. The moment you have a kid, more items get added to this infinite tape of a Turing machine. If you have none of this and you are on your own, third law of thermodynamics keeps you busy with finding your goals in the madness and chaos.

How can you then say ‘I need a goal to focus’. Our plates are perennially overflowing with things to do. This is really the point of asking this question.

Let me digress a bit and ask ‘What is the goal of a flower ?’

We very well can say that it cannot have a goal of its own. It is a product of nature. Its is one of the zillion goals of nature. Unlike a flower which has a single purpose in its existence, that of flowering and falling, we have a reasonably long life and while the falling is guaranteed, the flowering part is a fill in the blank type of thing.

We can fill in anything we want in that blank and this is the hardest part. Many of us do not know what exactly to fill in. So others fill in. Not that others know what to fill, but theirs were also filled in by some others.

The point is to realize you can fill in the blank that is left for you. You can decide the type of flowering you want to become before you fall. Every day in your life the blank appears unfilled.

If you ask me what to fill, I would say the flower shows the way. Whatever choice you make, it has to be beautiful.