Memory of living
If you had a good night’s sleep and woke up fresh, then the day in front of you is a new one. But we have this memory of the past which brings some sort of continuum like a dog chasing a bone. We catch up with our memory to continue where we left the previous day.
Instead if we behave as if you were born that day but with a brain to think devoid of memory, what would it turn out to be ? Of course that means your wife may look like the shopkeeper in a previously unvisited shop you visit. But because she also may be wearing the same shoes as you, you may look like the hairdresser she finds in a Salon she stepped in for the first time.
You may find her fresh and she may find you without all the troubles you had given her in the past. That is a very beautiful configuration for a husband and wife to be in. Or for that matter with anybody else whom you have had a relationship with.
You have the opportunity to discover a person without the past baggage. This may not bode well for a employer employee relationship. Because if you begin to begin from the beginning of what you were doing that will be catastrophic for the business. But here the employer also does not remember the past and so he is just looking at things he need to ship and begin to take orders fresh and deliver them that day. In a way a lot of business happens this way even now. Restaurants are one such thing. They cook and serve the food for that day. Well, most of them I wish to believe. So there is no memory of storing the food. But they do store some intermediate stuff in the refrigerator. If that is not there, they have to cycle down to the market to get stuff for the day, cook them and serve them.
I like this concept of a day to work for in everything we do. But a lot of our work tend to spill over and we have to continue from where we left. So my theory of a day’s memory will not apply for many things but instead of a day, the memory may have to be alive for weeks or months or years.
The longer you need to keep in memory, the more difficult it becomes to take them out. The memory of people, things, situations you hold for a long time, they become you. They start to define you in some way. You acquire those characteristics without you being aware.
Parents are a long standing memory. Brothers and Sisters are a long standing memory. Some friends stay there in memory for a long time. You may have pleasant or unpleasant memory with all those. But they are there frozen in your memory lanes. Some of those drive the way you see the world, the way you move forward.
Memory of any kind is an obstacle. Pleasant or Unpleasant. Lack of memory may be seen as ingratitude. But like the husband looking at his wife newly as I mentioned above, if you let go of your memory and look at people freshly, and they look at you freshly, it creates a new world of possibility for everyone. People should learn to let go, even the long standing memory that has deeply come to occupy you.
